Sometimes I don't get it...

I mean really, sometimes I can't wrap my head around this whole love thing. I hate looking at statistics that suggest that married men are happier than singles or married men live longer, but in my opinion I think married men have learned to suffer in silence. It's not necessarily true that they are indeed happier, but seems like what they are taught to say just to keep the peace and in terms of living longer, you can have it if the alternative is dealing with someone unreasonable, unreliable and unrelenting. Don't get me wrong, the thought of love sometimes makes me feel like there's a purpose to this whole relationship thing, but when I think of the process that it takes to get there I think "lonely is the only other company." Is it really worth it? Enlighten me...

You have nothing to fear...

So, there is simply one thing that I have to say about relationships. If you fear what comes in relationships there is definitely nothing that you can get out of them. Personally, I have a fear of giving too much of myself in a relationship and then follows that great thing called rejection. Rejection keeps fears at the forefront of all relationships. I've been rejected a few times in my life and I would have to say that it bites. Question: What is the one thing that you fear by giving of yourself? Please share...

I now pronounce you....

Marriage, in my opinion, is the one contract that people in these days and times do not honor and has become more a part of the legal system than that of the spiritual. Marriage is seen as an easy way to get a tax write-off than a way to become closer to what God has for the two that are united as one. With that being said I ask this question: Is there hope for marriage in today's society to truly survive? Why has marriage not worked for those now 50 some odd percent of people that have to endure the wrenching emotional turmoil of divorce and separation? Speak up... (R.I.P. MJ)

Open for business...

Okay, so let's move into the issue of the new and exciting trend of open relationships. Personally, I've never been in an open relationship and can't actually say that I would want to. To my understanding open relationships, or open marriages, are not those that suggest that each party is just open and honest with each other with full disclosure. You wish!!! These are relationships where each party is free to date and do other things outside of the relationship with an understanding that there is still a commitment to your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. Question: Is this really a feasible option that can truly be accomplished or is it simply an excuse for both parties to find another way to deal with their commitment issues? Would you be 'open' to the possibility of you and your mate engaging in such a relationship? Help me out...